It has been quite the winter of 2019! The decision to "winter" in the desert seemed like a win-win. Left most of the heavy fleece, boots and jackets in the Northwest and shipped dresses and shorts to Scottsdale. And I have spent most of this winter feeling cold and not enjoying being outside.
As I consider this, I realize that there is a mindset that I am stuck in. My expectation has been for warm, dry weather; lots of sun and outdoor activities. With a temperature around 70 degrees. I have been disappointed, to say the least, as the temperature has stayed in the 50's and 60's with many days of rain.
However, I can't change the weather just as I can't change what happens to me. When I realized this, I made a little shift and my perspective changed. Yes, it is only in the low 50's but the sun is out. Yes, it is raining -- at least it isn't snowing. So put on a jacket, a cap and gloves if necessary and go take that walk! When it is a rainy day go see a movie or browse the mall. Or stay inside and work on my website. If the weather was too perfect, I wouldn't want to work anyway!
So, yes, rain and cold can be a good thing. Similar to conflict because it informs us that there are alternatives and that sometimes we need to work a little harder or look a little deeper or be a little more creative to come up with a win-win solution.
Sunny E. Sassaman Conflict Management and Dispute Resolution Consultant